Obese girl’s mom and brother call her a pig (shock therapy?). [Hello Counselor/ENG, THA/2019.02.25]
December 10, 2019
It’s titled “Unbelievable Sister.” Hello, I’m an 18-year-old man who’s suffering every day. “Stop eating!” (Out of the blue?) “No one eats after 8 p.m. in this house.” “No way!” “We’ll go exercise in the morning now! You have to get up at 6 a.m., okay?” “No way! I won’t do it!” My sister, who is in 6th grade, weighs 150 lbs. After she was diagnosed as morbidly obese, my mother and sister in a battle over losing weight. “I told you to take your diet pills. Did you take them? Did you eat wild mango? Did you eat oats? If you don’t lose weight, you won’t be able to walk. This is so frustrating!” “Fine! Whatever!” “Don’t speak to Mom that way. Mom, stop buying diet pills.” I end up fighting them, too. Once my sister loses weight, I think this war could end, but… “I’m so hungry. Tripe, chicken feet, beef soup, raw beef… I want to eat them all. Let me just eat one.” “Hey, piggy. Stop eating!” This war against losing weight seems endless. How could I end this war? Could you please help us? Everything this 6th grader wants to eat seems to be a chaser for alcohol. Chicken feet, tripe and beef soup. I went through this, too. That’s right. When I entered 5th grade, I weighed over 110 lbs. But I was only 4’6″ tall at the time. I was the same way. My relatives would tell me I could roll around. – Really? / – That must’ve been tough. How much did you weigh then? I did have a growth spurt then, but I think I weighed around 132 lbs. Until what age? That’s nothing. That’s just mild obesity. Come on. (Go eat some more) (Boo hoo) Before we bring him out, we invited someone special who could help us out. Special guest, please come on out. (Ta-da!) Oh! It’s trainer Yang Chiseung. (Trainer Yang Chiseung – Trainer for celebrities) (Oh! The tiger trainer!) (Sliding down smoothly) (Welcome) What are your thoughts about this concern? What’s important is that she’s a little girl. Young children usually need a lot of help from people around them. I would like to ask… (What?) (Us?) Parents… Wait. Just a moment. (He’s very impatient) (I’m not here yet) You don’t know much about our program. (I was too passionate) Please come on out. (Who’s concerned about his obese sister?) (Lee Juseung) It’s because he’s so handsome. A handsome man. Are you going to a funeral after this? He’s only 18 years old. How bad is it at home that you came here today? It’s a war every day at home. Really? She’s been trying to lose weight for 3 years now. My sister was cute when she was young. But starting in third grade, she became chubby and then she went from chubby to fat. Chubby to fat, like this? Now, she’s fat! (A great expression) Does your sister want to lose weight, too? She might not. She could be happy with who she is now. She does want to lose weight, but she can’t. That was a good question. Between your mom and your sister, whom can you relate to more? I can relate to both of them. My mom pushes her hard and my sister is weak-willed. She has the will, but it’s weak. She wants to lose weight, but is weak-willed. She gives up easily when there’s food. In order to help my sister lose weight, my mom bought many diet products over the past 3 years. She bought diet pills, oriental herbal decoctions, oats, wild mango… – Puer tea. / – Puer tea. Then hibiscus. (She’s tried everything adults do) I heard about them on a morning program. Yes, that’s right. That must’ve cost a lot of money. She spent more than $3,000. (That’s a lot) For all of them. How about exercise? My mom made my sister exercise, too. Taekwondo, hapkido, fitness… She swims in the morning now. Your mom is raising a warrior. (That’s a lot) You called your sister a pig. Isn’t that too harsh? She needs to lose weight, but she eats too much. I can’t help it when I see her eat. Don’t her feelings get hurt? Yes. She cried in her room, so I try to hold back. When she was 5, she could eat a hamburger set alone. At age 5? At age 6, she ate chicken feet, tripe… At age 6? Also, raw beef, live octopus… She’ll be in middle school next year. I’m afraid that her classmates will tease her. You’re worried as her brother. Also child obesity could lead to adult obesity. (Does she know how I feel?) Let’s meet his sister now. I think she’s cute. Hi. Hi. (Who’s the sister that’s extremely obese?) (She’s cute) Do you understand your brother’s concern? I do. Mom and I argue a lot because of my weight. What’s the toughest thing for you? There are so many things I want to eat. When I tell myself I won’t eat it, I become hungry and I give in. It’s the same for adults, too. I understand. I totally understand. What’s your favorite food? Tripe. (Appetizing) (How does a 13-year-old eat tripe?) Whom did you go eat tripe with the first time? With Dad. Tell us how you felt when you tried it. It was spicy and chewy. It was good even in a vegetable wrap. Did you also eat fried rice? Yes. (She knows how to dine) I think she can become the successor of Yeongja. A food child prodigy. (This is not what I pictured) The time I wanted to lose weight the most was when my mom gave away a pretty dress that was too small to a friend. I was so upset then and was determined to lose weight. Did you experience something similar? Yes, you should tell us. My brother said, “Stop stuffing your face, you pig.” (He couldn’t help her out?) (Forget it! I’m going to punish you) Why did you say such a mean thing to her? I thought if I hurt her feelings, she would lose weight. You know that it doesn’t work. Did you ever go through this? I was fat once, too. I was fat in elementary school and lost weight after I started track-and-field. I don’t get good grades. Who? You? She told me, “You’re so stupid.” Then you should’ve studied harder. (They’re cute siblings) I go to this private institute. My brother wasn’t doing well, so he was kicked out. I know me being fat is a problem, but him getting poor grades is even worse. Unbelievable. (She wins) I want her to know how great it feels when she loses weight. – You want her to feel it? / – Yes. What are you doing now in order to lose weight? I swim for an hour and a half in the morning. I don’t like oats, but I eat it because my mom tells me to. She’s trying hard. How often do you go swimming? 5 times a week. That’s almost every day. Aren’t you hungry after swimming? Yes, so I eat oats. You eat more than that, right? I microwaved egg whites and ate them. Then she should’ve lost weight. Have you lost weight? I don’t know. The one who’s upset the most could be their mom. My mom was very upset that I kept gaining weight. I know how her mom feels. What was your mother like? My mom was skinny. That’s why I asked. Their mother seems to be very skinny, too. Hello. (Nice to meet you) Could you please stand up? (Fragile) It must be aggravating for the daughter. Your son is here with his concern. Do you understand his concern? I do understand. My daughter loves to eat too much. It makes me angry when she eats a lot. When she gets on a public bus, no one thinks she’s in elementary school. She said, “The driver didn’t give me any change.” I knew I had to do something about it. Your son told us that you spent over $3,000 on diet products. She is severely obese around her stomach. I bought diet products that are safe for kids that would make her grow tall and lose weight. Were they effective? She doesn’t take them consistently. I ask her, “These are good to lose weight. Are you going to eat them?” She says yes, but she doesn’t in the end. If I tell her no, she would nag at me and buy them anyway. That’s why I tell her yes. My brother goes, “You’re going to eat it? Really?” He said it annoyingly. Of course he teased her. As her brother, you should help her. You could work out with her. We do. Since oats are food, I thought they’d be better than diet pills. How come these products aren’t effective? She works out and eats healthy food. She eats other things, too. (Aha…) She eats ramen and ham. She adds honey to her oats, too. – Honey with oats. / – That tastes good. Was she ever caught eating secretly? One time, I found chicken bones on the table. I asked her, “Did you order chicken?” She said, “That’s what we ate yesterday.” Then the next day, she brought in a box of chicken from the balcony. “I hid it so you wouldn’t eat it.” (She hid food, too?) She can finish a whole chicken by herself. – A whole chicken? / – Yes. Imagine how much she wants to eat. You ate other things, too, right? Yes. Tell us everything. – Be honest. / – It’s all right. Fried chicken from convenience stores. They are good. (Gulp) How many do you eat usually? Two. Big ones? People tend to crave more when they’re forbidden. When T-ara members first debuted, they came to practice “Bo Peep Bo Peep.” They were told not to eat any snacks. I found chocolate wrappers in the bathroom. Since they were forbidden from eating, they would get stressed and eat in hiding. They wanted to survive. Children can’t handle it if they are forced to eat less and exercise more. They should get in the habit of working out first and then cut down on their food later. (True education) It sounds like you like to eat chicken and your dad introduced her to the taste of tripe. Your entire family must like to eat fatty food. Maybe you should try changing the family’s diet. Oh, watch the family menu. I did try when Sowon was trying to lose weight, but I work as a beautician, so I come home late. If I were home, I’d cook 3 meals a day, but I can’t. So it’s my fault, too. I think my husband is… Sabotaging her diet. When we go out to eat, he orders everything she wants to eat. When he buys pastries he buys 13 types at once. He’s a big spender. Let’s talk to the dad now. Sowon resembles her dad. Even the physical constitution. Mom says that Sowon isn’t losing weight because of you. What do you think of that? I think it’s true. – You admit it? / – He’s so nice. I’m here today and I’m about to cry. Why? Because she’s so cute? (Surprised) His baby is here to talk about losing weight. You don’t want her to go through this? That too. I love my daughter so much. She’ll get married one day. I start to cry when I think of that. You’re crying because of that? It’s because she’s going to go away one day? That’s so cute. You don’t want her to get married? I don’t. She tells me that she won’t get married. Is that why you keep telling her to eat? That’s not why, right? That’s not it. I want her to lose weight, too. I told her, “If you lose 10 lbs, I will get you a new phone.” But it’s not effective. Then you shouldn’t buy her food. You buy 13 types of pastries at once. She often shows me her cute side. How do you do that? If I kiss him and ask for something, he does it for me. (Melts his heart) (Now you know why I’m so worried?) Mom spends money on pills and you’re buying food for her. Is there a reason why you love her so much? My father passed away when I was young. We were too poor to eat whatever we want. That is why I want to buy my children whatever foods they want. That’s why I can’t say no to her. Have you tried anything to help her lose weight? I stopped giving her spending money. But she never asked for any. Then where did she get the money? One day, my wife got a call. Sowon was asking her friends to buy her things. She kept getting her friends to buy her food. I was shocked. I was afraid that she would go awry if I didn’t buy her things, so I gave her spending money again. It’s a vicious cycle. I want to ask Sowon. Is there a time when you want to lose weight? If I am not forced to take the pills or swim, I’d be able to lose weight on my own. – You think you can do it? / – Yes. You won’t sneak off to eat chicken? No. (I don’t think so) That’s almost impossible. Do you like the exercise you’re doing now? You don’t really like to swim? I used to work out at the gym. I would do hundreds of squats with weights. Then I need to rest, right? But my brother tells me to do more. Parents must know how to exercise first. Working out at the gym isn’t the answer. You said that you did squats, but if you lift heavy weights, your growth plates could close. (Surprised) You could become obese in the lower body. That’s why I brought a trampoline today. Jumping on a trampoline could stimulate growth plates and help you grow taller. Also, it could consume more calories than running. Let’s see how the trainer does it. An expert will teach you how to exercise well. I want to try it, too. That looks like fun. If you straighten your knees on a trampoline, you could get hurt. Always keep your knees slightly bent. – Then jump like this. / – That’s so easy. (Interested) You can go sideways. Then you can spin around. – That looks like fun. / – It is fun. You can try different moves, too. Please demonstrate for us with music. (What are these gestures?) You’re good. (Acting cute) Yang Chiseung. (Oh my?) (Holding back laughter) (Speeding up) (Exercising hard) He’s moving faster. (That looks tough) Yeah. (You’re the best!) What do you think? Do you want to try it? Yes, it looks fun. It looks fun? – This is a great workout. / – Yes. I’m sweating, too. Why don’t you try? You don’t have to do it right. Just try. (Exercising while having fun) That’s good. (Moving shyly) (There you go, sis) (Good job) (This is easy) Okay. Good. Why don’t you give it to her? I brought one for her. He brought one for you to take home. (I’ll exercise often) Take it with you. (Applause) Something she can do at home with family. We will do rock, paper, scissors. The loser squats down. If it’s a tie, we both sit down. Rock, paper, scissors. We squat down together. Rock, paper, scissors. (A tie) Rock, paper, scissors. This is a squat exercise. (A tie again) (You didn’t plan this, did you?) You end up squatting naturally. (Scared) That must be aggravating. That looks like fun. Try it with your brother. (A siblings’ match) Rock, paper, scissors. (A tie) – 20 minutes would be enough. / – Yes. Rock, paper, scissors. Good, good, good. (She’s panting already) (Lost) (Lost again!) (She is as bad as Hyomin) This is really good. Rock, paper, scissors. Mom and Dad should do this, too. (Try it) Rock, paper, scissors. The entire family can do this. This is great. (Dad keeps losing, too) (Try to win, Dad) Dad and Sowon are the same. He’s having a hard time. (This is the end for me) (It’ll improve their relationship) I think this is a great idea. You can help her as her brother. You can both work out. You heard everything so far. Can you trust Sowon a bit more now? Yes, I want to. I don’t want to argue with her. I want her to go down to a normal weight. Don’t tell her to take diet pills. You never know how those pills could affect a growing child. You should change her diet instead. Dad’s role is very important. I will try my best for my daughter. He dotes on his daughter so much. I was surprised when he cried. She’s just an elementary school student. I can make him cry again. Imagine the day she gets married. Don’t say that. I’ll cry again. She’s getting married. Don’t say it. Don’t. (Boo hoo) Oh no. (Crying again?) Raise your hand if you want to be loved like this. (I have to raise my hand) If you continue to give her money and buy 13 pieces of bread, she’ll get married. She’ll get married tomorrow. No way. He’s so adorable. (Be with me for years) Why don’t you say a word to your sister? You’re pretty, but lose weight a little and become even more beautiful. Let’s be happy and not fight over the diet. You are such a happy family. If you don’t badger me about losing weight, I will lose weight on my own. (Okay!) Sowon. I think your mom feels guilty because she thinks it’s her fault that she wasn’t able to look after you. Why don’t you say something to her? Say a word to your mom. Mom, it’s not your fault. Don’t feel guilty. (So proud) – Do you love her? / – I think Dad’s going to cry. Exercise with me. (Smile) Tell him you’ll get married before you’re 20 if he doesn’t. (I won’t give her away) Oh my. It’s nice to see such a happy family. Yes, it’s heartwarming. Let’s start with Yoonjung. I don’t think it’s a concern. I don’t think it’s a concern. One day, if you make up your mind I think you’ll be able to do it. I don’t think it’s a concern. I don’t think it’s a concern either. I would like to say this as someone older. You go on a diet so that you can eat yummy food without feeling guilty. Think of it as controlling your pace. (We will root for you) Child obesity has become such a problem now that 15-20% of kids are suffering from it. She will need everyone’s care and encouragement. So that she stays determined. If you think it’s a concern, press the button. (What does the audience think?) 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. Please stop. Please show us the result. (Announcing the result) Did they get over 100 votes? 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